A Mom’s Review of Everybody’s Fine (Robert De Niro and Drew Barrymore)

After watching Everybody’s Fine, starring Robert De Niro and Drew Barrymore, I recorded this video on Facebook. If you have children, you should definitely watch this movie.

This film made me ponder the reality of parents who LOVE their children, parents who work hard to give them the very best education… Yet, they still fall short of building a strong family.

Is giving our children all the material things they need enough? Absolutely not, yet the majority of parents today indulge their children with material gifts and the gift of an academic education,

But they forfeit the number one gift in the world- the gift to love someone and to get to know that person- their likes, dislikes, their fears, their victories, their insecurities or dreams.


...the majority of parents today indulge their children with material gifts and the gift of an academic education,

forfeiting the number one gift in the world- the gift to love someone and to get to know that person- their likes, dislikes, their fears, their victories, their insecurities or dreams.


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I don’t have to tell you time flies! Our children grow up during the time we are sitting at the computer, or cooking or working. Their minds develop and engage with the world and we can be present or absent during the entire process.

Here is what I learned from this film:

1) Don’t force your children to dream when you are not living YOUR dream- This father never wanted anything significant. He was an average dad, who simply wanted to provide for his family and then retire in a happy suburbia home. There is nothing wrong with this, of course. The problem is he expected his children to want more than the average life. It was not good enough to be a “painter;” the son had to become an “artist.”

2) Work hard, but engage your children in your job/career- Working hard shows strong work ethics, but when we don’t engage our children with our job/career, we are sending the message that our children get in the way of our career. Furthermore, our children could interpret that our career is more important than our family.

3) Don’t sit back and let your spouse do all the work!- If your spouse is very good at connecting with your children and keeping the family together, don’t sit back and watch. Engage with your family as well and help your spouse. Watch how he/she builds relationships with your children and do the same. What are some clues to know you are being passive in this area? They don’t tell you what is going on with their life- they only tell your spouse.

4) If you lie to your spouse, your children will lie to your spouse- The mother of the children taught the children to hide things from the father, so he wouldn’t worry. When they grew up, they continued to hide things from the father and consequently they learned to lie and carry burdens that were not their own.

5) It’s never too late to get back their heart!- Sometimes we make mistakes, but it’s never too late to pick up the pieces of broken relationships. Ask for forgiveness and re-engage with your children. Be the first one to start and suck it up, because they are worth it. Any signs of rejection or anger simply come out of their wounded heart. Don’t live with regrets and let them know you love them with all your heart!

Question- If I was to pick a favorite from the above key points, I would say my fav is #5, which is yours and why?

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