Independent vs. Familial Culture- Could Living In The U.S. Be Hurting Your Family?

Could Living In The U.S. Be Hurting Your Family

It is no surprise the United States of America prides itself in being an independent nation with independent thinkers and independent actions.

But could this way of thinking be hurting the family?

When children reach 18 years of age, we “send them off” to college in expectancy that they will finish maturing and so they can learn the things they were resistant to learn at home…things like picking up their room, cooking and appreciating the members of the family.

If parents are fortunate that an adult child lives at home during college, it is soon expected the child move geographically far away from the family, without major consideration of the need to be close to parents, grandparents, uncles, aunts and cousins.

“Off to find independence and freedom” is every young adult’s motto and the motto of their proud encouragers. 

The common belief that we only have 18 years to influence our children is prevalent in our society, yet it is not common in other countries. In fact, the majority of world nations tend to be familial nations. In other words, the decisions made as individuals tend to revolve around family. Most adult children do not move away to college and when married, they tend to stay close to the family to give the future children the opportunity to grow up around the grandparents.

 

The belief that we only have 18 years to influence our children is prevalent in our society, yet it is uncommon in other countries



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I can’t help to wonder if the proud independent nation we’ve created is fostering separation and rebellion between parents and children in the United States…

Relationships in familial nations are not perfect, but there is a lot of unity, a lot less rebellion and the idea of “not speaking” to the parents is unthought of and seldom seen! Honor in the family is the common denominator and the weave that keeps the family together. I won’t disagree with the fact that familial nations could use more independence, but if the end product is families that stay together, take care of each other, are healthier and more supportive, then familial nations lead the way.

But are we destined to live the doom and gloom of family separation while still living in the United States?

No, we must not accept the extreme independent ways of thinking that have taken our families to the far ledge of unhealthy independence!!

There are 3 powerful shifts families living in the United States should make if their family is destined to stay together:

1) Consciously choose to make family a priority- I believe the first step to keeping the family unit together is to consciously make it a priority. Without a keen sense of focus towards the family, there will always be tides that push against the breakup of the family. Without a keen sense of focus towards the family, there will always be tides that push against the breakup of the family.

2) Build a family culture centered around family and it’s overall unity- When parents prioritize family and take actions that encourage family unit, a stronger family culture is built and the children happily conform and adapt to the culture of “family first.” Precisely because our society focuses on independence, it is that much more important to shape our own family culture around family to keep it a priority.

 

I believe the first step to keeping the family unit together is to consciously make it a priority.



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3) Encourage interdependence in the family- I believe we can embrace independence as individuals, but we must reach towards a higher standard of living called INTERDEPENDENCE. In such environment, each member of the family understands they can make their own choices, but must also depend on one another. Consequently, interdependence also considers that independent choices also affect our friends and society overall.  

Overall, parents in the United States can appreciate the evolution towards independence, without sacrificing their family. If we focus on keeping family first, we can embrace the development of our societal culture and succeed as a nation and as a family!

***NOTE: This post could be misinterpreted by some to think I am criticizing the United States. Please, don’t misunderstand me. What I am trying to do is make this country and it’s people EVEN BETTER than it already is by having us consider a higher way of living.

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